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Unlock the conversation! Openly, peacefully, and respectfully ask, tell, and be approachable about discussing gun accessibility in the places your children play.

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Mission
To increase communication between parents regarding gun accessibility in places their children play. Gun Safe Mom wants all parents to talk to each other about gun access in places they have their children play and display their willingness to do so by posting a Gun Safe Mom safety sign and/or decal.

Overview
We provide a method of communication whereby parents, especially mothers (who largely control the social calendars of children), can gain assertiveness and confidence discussing gun safety and accessibility with other parents and family members when children play away from home. Our home safety signage and decals help parents keep the topic of gun accessibility in mind as their children work and play at and away from home.

This movement is about everyday parents taking preventative action for their children by conversing openly, honestly, and respectfully about gun accessibility and children at the household level. By doing so, there is a greater likelihood of reducing the number of accidental shootings, gun violence, homicide, suicide and unnecessary deaths of young people where guns are involved. Regardless of one’s personal beliefs on gun control, we can all stand together and make it obvious to others that we are not going to allow our children and vulnerable young adults to independently access firearms in the home and use them in an unsafe way.

It is likely that there will be legally owned guns in the private places children play irrespective of the value of the home, the education level of the parents, or the neighborhood setting. When we recognize this and openly discuss the matter of gun accessibility prior to a “play date” or social visit, we are doing our part as parents to protect our children from being involved in a potentially dangerous or even fatal situation. By displaying the Gun Safe Mom or Gun Safe Dad image, we will work together to erase the stigma attached to discussing matters of gun safety and accessibility between parents, friends, and family members. We will send the message that “It’s okay to talk about gun accessibility with me” and people who do so will be respected for discussing the topic, no matter their personal views.

A Gun Safe Mom sign also signifies that all parents who engage in this type of discussion will be respected for personal decisions to accept or decline social opportunities for their children as a result of their conversations about if and how a firearm is stored in a home. Our conversational responsibility and willingness to connect with other parents can prevent tragedy and keep the safety of our children first.

Missy Carson Smith is a seasoned educator and mother of four who independently owns and operates Gun Safe Mom. Neither are associated or aligned with any organization that either promotes or denounces gun ownership. She has many self-created materials and activities she presents at workshops to help parents engage in nonjudgmental, diplomatic conversation relating to guns in the household.

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  1. I was thinking about hosting a group on creating change around gun safety but am stretched so thin that I couldn’t take on any more projects. But would love to help out if you want to do some community events.

  2. Excellent idea! Very important topic!! And, remember that ‘starter’ guns are also dangerous and should be included in the conversation as children may be around these too and think they are ‘harmless’ but they can also be very dangerous.

  3. Missy,

    I am Kate Daggett’s father. She has shared with me your passion. I inherited a shot gun from my grandfather 35 years ago. It sits in my basement and we have never had ammo in the house. However, it is now equipped with a trigger lock thanks to your initiative.

    Thanks for your passion and good luck with your launch.

    Don

  4. Thanks for having the courage start this discussion in a climate where any talk of gun safety can provoke irrational responses like those who believe what happened at Sandy Hook was a conspiracy. I don’t have kids but support all efforts to save every child’s life that may be lost to irresponsible gun use or ownership. Which, in turn, could save my life.
    Whether or not it matters to you, I’m fiercely in agreement with the President’s plan for modern gun control he unveiled today and I wish you all the best and success with Gun Safe Mom.
    And you have my support and assistance if needed.
    Regards,
    Bob

  5. I love what you are doing, but I find I have issue with the wording of a statement on your site. “Whether or not you defend or oppose the second amendment.” I do not oppose the second amendment, but I am in favor of gun control. There are differing opinions as to the meaning of the second amendment, and gun control is not an anti-second amendment sentiment. Please reconsider the way you are characterizing the gun control movement.

    • Hi Monica,

      Thanks for your response! It is so true that the second amendment is not all or nothing. There is room for legislation to allow for those firearms and weapons to not be for public access. There are those who feel all guns should be banned from our country and those who feel that no bans should exist at all. The truth of the matter is that most of us are not quite so black and white and your point taken that people can very well believe in the second amendment AND have reasonable controls in place for the greater good is solid. Thanks for weighing in.

  6. I am not a fan of guns, but as my ex-husband was in law enforcement, they were a part of our life. They were kept in a locked box on a very high closet shelf. My ex wouldn’t allow our boys any toy guns, even squirt guns, as he wanted them to be old enough to know the difference between real ones and the toys. We constantly told them of the dangers of guns, and had them take safety classes at a young age.
    I also think that the 2nd amendment has been reinterpreted by gun lovers. There is absolutely no need for anyone to own all those weapons. Period.

  7. I am the father of five,who has been a hunter, gun collector and competitive pistol shooter. My children were raised in a home with many guns,they were brought up shooting and hunting. My childrens were well versed in proper firearm protocol. My guns were always secured from unauthorized us. We must be parents, it seems to be a lost art today.I believe what your are doing is needed, now if we can all become PARENTS we will be almost there.

    • Thank you for your comment, Paul. This is a parenting issue and a Gun Safe Mom is a positive parenting movement and an attempt to simply do a better job communicating with each other about the safety of our kids. Thank you for taking the time to educate your children and being responsible in securing your firearms from unauthorized use. Your words and efforts are appreciated by me and by many.

  8. Hi Missy,
    I admire your campaign and think the timing could not be more appropriate. I believe you are unveiling the real issue surrounding guns; the responsible care by the owners. If this is going to be a freedom we want to preserve, we should all have an education on taking preventative measures. Thanks & good luck as your message continues to spread!

  9. I’m SO happy you’re doing this ! This has been a cause of mine for quite awhile. We have nine firearms at our home, and will certainly own more as our twin daughters, who are eight and a half years old and already know how to shoot and are learning to hunt, progress in their ability.

    We always keep our guns locked in a safe when not in use. The kids never handle guns when I’m not supervising, even when they are just practicing aiming at a picture of a wild turkey or something.

    Families that own firearms but don’t want to invest in an expensive safe or can’t afford to need to use disabling mechanisms. Better yet, buy a real solid ammo safe ($100 or less) and take out the trigger assembly or bolt on your guns. I have to admit I know very little about how to disable handguns or semi-automatics, since I don’t own any of either. I would guess these can be disabled fairly easily as well. Of course, always keep ammo separate !

    I really hate the phrase “Kids and guns don’t mix”. Shooting and hunting have been academically proven to be beneficial for a child’s development. I like “Unsupervised kids and guns don’t mix”!

    Best of luck,
    Erik Jensen
    Gun-loving outdoor dad, Minneapolis, MN.

    A number of states have laws against unsupervised youth access to firearms, but some are stronger than others.

  10. Oh, addendum to that addendum regarding laws against unsupervised youth access to firearms…my understanding is that some states don’t have them at all, and that’s a crying shame.

    Erik Jensen

  11. Oh, now one more thing, the last, I promise. I really like combo safes and locks over keys. If only the adults know the combo, there’s no way a kid can find the keys. This is an issue in youth suicides sometimes (adults think the location of safe keys is unknown to youth, but the kids figure out the location sometimes).

    Erik Jensen

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